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Our interview with a bonafide Penthouse Pet and Playboy Playmate!
Penthouse Pet and Playboy Playmate Victoria Zdrok (Visit
Penthouse Pet Victoria
Zdrok's web site) was born on March 3, 1973, in
Kiev, Ukraine, then under Communist rule as part of the former
U.S.S.R., Victoria Zdrok always dreamed of coming to America. Raised by
anti-Communist parents, she listened to Voice of America on her
father's clandestine radio and diligently studied English with the
hope of following that dream; and in 1989, at the age of 16, she
was honored as the first Russian teenager allowed to come to the
United States as a foreign exchange student. Seizing that
opportunity, Victoria graduated from Pensacola Junior College at
17, and from West Chester University with a B.A. degree at the age
of 18. Allowed to stay in the United States, Victoria entered a
joint law and psychology graduate program hosted by Villanova
University and Hahnamann Medical School and has now received her
J.D. degree in law and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from
Drexel University. Given her classic Eastern European beauty, it
was natural for her to be discovered by Playboy magazine, who made
her a bonafide Playboy Playmate - Miss October 1994. That
Penthouse Pet centerfold appearance launched Victoria on parallel
career as a model which has been nothing short of meteoric. In
2002, she was also named a Penthouse Pet (http://www.penthouse.com).
She has appeared in dozens of Playboy foreign
editions (including 3 covers), Playboy Special Editions (including
3 more covers), and Playboy catalogs (including 8 covers).
What are the three most important
attributes that you look for in a man?
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: Magnanimity—I
can’t stand selfish men or cheapskates; self-confidence—the joie
de vie and understanding of self that allows a man to project a
positive image of himself to others; and, yes, good looks—I am,
after all, a creature bound by biology and the current cultural
climate which places such a high value on looks.
Does a man have to be handsome for you to
be attracted to him?
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: If the
question refers to physical attraction, the answer is “yes.”
If I wanted to meet a beautiful woman
like you, what would be the best place to meet you?
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: In the gym,
at a mall, dancing at a club—anywhere where a casual meeting does
not seem contrived or arranged.
What’s the worst place for a guy to hit
on you?
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: Over the
internet.
What topics do you like to talk about
when you’re on a date?
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: Virtually
anything except religion and politics—I’m omnivorous when it comes
to acquiring knowledge.
Do you feel men listen to you when you
are talking?
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: Yes; and if
they didn’t, I wouldn’t be talking to them long.
Were you ever surprised by your
attraction to a guy (for example, have you ever felt a powerful
attraction to a guy whom you never would have guessed you would be
attracted to)? If so, explain.
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: Yes. One of my
professors in college was not very good looking, but he impressed
me with his eloquence and intelligence, as well as his lofty
ideals and seeming indifference to me. He became a challenge.
How important is someone’s personal
style, i.e., hairstyle, clothing, manners?
Penthouse Pet Victoria Zdrok: Very
important. I cannot stand long hair on men, or dirty, unkempt
hair, or a body which looks like it has been abandoned; and I am
not much for piercings or tattoos. I am, however, impressed by
good taste in clothes in a man, as well as by good manners.
Have you ever been in a situation when
two men competed for your attention at the same time? Who won, and
why?
Yes. The man who was more persistent and
showed more interest in me won out.
What don’t men understand about women?
Women need constant reaffirmation of their
attractiveness; they need to feel special; and they need to feel
an attachment to a man in any long-term relationship. “Distance”
(whether emotional or physical), lack of attentiveness, or being
taken for granted are felt more deeply by women than by men; and
thus men must make a special effort to avoid creating those
feelings in a woman in whom they are interested.
What should any guy out there know about
an extraordinary woman like you?
That I am just a normal woman, with the same
kind of feelings, desires, fears, doubts and insecurities as other
women have. I would rather be treated like a person than like some
supermodel diva. Appreciation for who I am inside is more welcome
than awe at any external honors, awards or tributes.
What things should guys know about dating
but never seem to get correctly?
Men should never rush things, but let them
develop gradually. And a guy should never be afraid to be honest,
even vulnerable, in expressing his feelings. Pleasant surprises
are the spice that keeps a woman’s interest high, whether it be a
card or a call when she is not expecting it, or last-minute
tickets to the theater or a movie that you know she will like, or
taking her on a spur-of-the-moment shopping trip and buying her
something she wants, but would not buy for herself. If a man is
really “into” a woman, he will listen carefully to her expressions
of her desires and dreams, likes and dislikes, and store up a list
of things to surprise her with at regular intervals.
What signals do you give to a man when
you want him to make the first move?
None. I make the first move, if I am
interested in a man.
What signals do you give a man when you
want him to stay away?
I avoid making eye contact, don’t smile in
his direction—and don’t answer his phone calls.
Most men think they are great lovers,
what has been your experience?
Very few men ever live up to their
self-descriptions of their love-making prowess.
What could most men do to improve their
lovemaking technique?
Slow down and be more patient—the man who
can make a lovemaking session last an hour or more with constant
variety and innovation scores far higher on the lovemaking scale
than the man with a big cock, an athlete’s body and a sprinter’s
mentality to reach orgasm in record time. Put the woman’s pleasure
before your own—a man knows when he starts a lovemaking session
that he will reach orgasm almost every time, but a woman does not
have that expectation. The man who makes a point of pleasuring his
partner first, and proving to her that she will reach orgasm most
of the time with him, will be far more welcome in bed than the man
who thinks mainly of his own pleasure. Be attentive and learn your
partner’s verbal and non-verbal cues as to the state of her
arousal—most women are less vocal than men in telling their
partners what they like or don’t like in bed, or how aroused they
are by various techniques; but they always give their partners
clues in the form of sounds and non-verbal body reactions. The
wise and experienced lover will recognize those cues and learn to
know every nuance of her reactions, and will use that knowledge to
enhance and strengthen her arousal continuously.
Tell us once and for all, does size
matter? If so, to what degree?
It can matter at the extremes if a man
is extra large or extra small; but most men are pretty much the
same in size. Technique, therefore, is the primary differentiating
factor between a good lover and one not so good.
What is the one thing you wish all men
knew about women?
That women are worthy of the same degree of
respect, attention and commitment that most men feel only for
their “best buddies” or pals.
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