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Let’s face it guys! Like the thousands of other
useless dating books out there, we could bore you with generalities or give
you a laundry list of worthless pick-up lines. But you would soon discover
that your cash would have been better spent on a bad date. Right? That’s why
our Zen System is not about cheap tricks. It’s all about real skills! You
need game! You need a “rap”! After all, a cheesy pick-up line may help you
initiate a conversation with a hot woman, but where do you go from here? How
do you keep the conversation interesting? When and how do you ask for her
phone number? What do you do on the first date?
You are ready for our Zen System, if you agree with us
that dating is a skill. You can become an absolute master and date almost
any beautiful woman you want, if you acknowledge a few simple principles:
Recognize that developing
real dating skills requires a 360°
approach. Take a 30-year-old, beat-up Volkswagen Beetle with a
faulty engine, worn-out breaks, flat tires and striped gears. Even if you
replace the engine with the finest Ferrari engine available, the Beetle
won’t run because you haven’t corrected all of the other problems. Moreover,
the Ferrari engine will not run properly in a VW Beetle. That’s obvious,
don’t you think? The same principle applies to men in a dating context. Yet,
you wouldn’t believe how many guys see their weakness as falling into one or
two categories – which they may be willing to address – while completely
ignoring other equally critical areas. For example, a $3,000 Armani-suit may
greatly improve your appearance, but it won’t give you more self-confidence,
help you entertain and captivate your date, or make you a better lover. The
suit won’t do you that much good if you don’t improve the whole package. An
Olympic runner might be in amazing physical condition, but he can’t run a
marathon without track shoes. We’ll make sure you have the proper equipment.
You have to
develop your own distinct game. We recognize that no two men are
the same; there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dating. For example, a
George Clooney-type of macho approach would not work for Mike Meyers
(“Austin Powers”) or Ben Stiller (“Something About Mary”). Any of these guys
would have tremendous success with women, even if they were not famous.
George is drop-dead gorgeous. Mike Myers and Ben Stiller are hilariously
funny. But clearly they have unique and different personalities and each one
has developed his own effective style. You don’t have to be handsome like
George Clooney, and you don’t necessarily have to be funny like Mike Myers.
This principal applies to each of us. You can develop an amazingly effective
style, but it must be within your character. If you’re an introverted and
genuinely nice guy, turning yourself into a macho dude with cheesy pick-up
lines will not work for you. It will feel unnatural and appear awkward. If
anything, it will hurt your chances with women.
Let’s drive home this point. Think of the ultimate
sports car, a Ferrari, and the ultimate luxury car, a Rolls Royce. Which one
is superior? Neither. They are both tremendous vehicles with the ability to
attract buyers willing to pay a small fortune for them. But, you cannot race
a Rolls through a winding turn in the mountains. And you cannot take a
relaxing drive in the country with your 3 friends in a Ferrari. It would be
futile and counter-productive to make design changes to the Rolls to make it
more like a Ferrari, and vice versa. To do so would be to defeat the
qualities and allure that each of these vehicles possess. This metaphor
applies to dating: different types of women are attracted to different kinds
of men. Some like a suave refined gentleman; others prefer the growl of
horsepower. You don’t have to be one or the other to succeed. But, you need
to have a distinct style of your own that will differentiate your from the
competition. You don’t have to change who you are, in fact you shouldn’t.
Instead we will help you discover, augment, and showcase your strengths,
while identifying and overcoming your weaknesses.
It’s all
about execution. Theory is worthless without execution. Reading,
learning, thinking, and self-evaluation are important elements in your
development. However, if you don’t get out there and try, you will never,
ever succeed. All the theory in the world gets you nowhere. It’s a great
idea to develop a plan of action, but by itself that’s not enough. You need
to practice and execute your strategies in the real world to see what
actually works out there. For example, you can read and study the finest
textbook on how to play baseball, but until you actually swing a real bat
you will get nowhere. Likewise, you can read about dating, but the key is
putting theory into practice. The “Zen Secrets of Dating” is not short on
theory, but it’s really all about execution.
Why don’t we try? Because we are afraid of failing.
But the most successful people in any field have developed a strategy to
deal with “failure.” Think about this metaphor – you are “Mr. October,” “Mr.
‘Clutch.’” You step to the plate with tens of thousands of screaming fans,
flashbulbs popping, millions of viewers on television. Bases are loaded, two
outs, bottom of the ninth inning and the coach calls for a “pinch hitter” –
you! You step to the plate, you are Reggie Jackson – the hall of fame
unparalleled clutch hitter, best man in the world in this situation.
The count is now 3 and 2. If you were Reggie, if we
put you in his shoes at that moment – come on, you would be freaked out. You
would be thinking “what if I strike out” on national television in front of
everyone. The pitch comes in, you take a huge swing, and a miss. Now what?
If it were us, we would hang up our shoes. We would be too freaked to go out
there again in the same situation. We will show you how to deal with this
when we redefine failure.
Until you get to that chapter, just remember this: do
you know who has the most strike-outs in major league baseball history, by
far? That’s right – Reggie Jackson. Develop a plan to deal with set-backs
and don’t let it stand in the way of you trying your best.
Here’s where our Zen System starts. Let’s explore
together everything you need to know to date any beautiful woman you desire!
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