Let’s face
it: If you want to be successful with women, you absolutely must
learn how to talk to women!
Let’s take a typical
dating situation: You have summoned up enough courage to walk
across a crowded coffee shop and approach an incredibly beautiful
woman standing at the counter waiting to pick up her espresso.
You look great and project Zen Confidence. Her body language
shows that she is receptive as you introduce yourself.
Congratulations! You have made a great first impression and have
engaged your target. But now what? How do you get beyond hello?
What will you ask her? What conversation topics will intrigue
her? How do you keep the conversation going? What do you do when
her other girlfriends suddenly show up and interrupt your
conversation? What if it turns out she is out with another guy?
The biggest
problem is that most men have never once consciously
thought about how to hold a great conversation with a woman. Be
honest! When was the last time you sat down and jotted down a
list of fun and interesting conversation topics and stories?
If you fall
into either one of following 4 categories you’re a big trouble
with the ladies:
- Can’t
start a conversation successfully in the first place.
All of us know that cheesy pick-up lines will in many cases
raise a woman’s defenses. You need to have effective
conversation starters to make a good first impression, and get a
woman toup, so you can start a conversation with her.
- Can’t
keep it going. A lot
of guys just run out of steam after 5 minutes of small talk and
the standard line-up of boring questions like:
- “Where
are you from?”
- “What do
you do for a living?”
- “How do
you like living here?”
They just don’t know where to take
a conversation next. It’s especially difficult if the woman
you’re targeting is initially unresponsive or not a good
conversationalist herself. That is, if she doesn’t reciprocate
with questions of her own to keep the conversation flowing.
- Can’t
entertain and connect.
I don’t care if you are Ivy-League educated with a Ph.D. in
English literature, a stand-up comedian, or knowledgeable about
sports and world politics. There’s a huge difference between
talking to a work colleague or a drinking buddy, and talking to
a woman you want to date! Chances are that with all that
education you will bore women to death.
Most of us think we can just wing
it, and as long as we can just keep it going for a while, we’re in
good shape. Think again! It’s particularly tough on us educated
fools trying to pick-up a beautiful woman at a bar or nightclub.
The speakers are pumpin’, the crowds are loud, and you are trying
to start a meaningful conversation! And then some starving artist
dude comes in, drops a few cheesy one-liners and the hot girl is
his. If you could only figure out what he said …
- Can’t
close. Even if some
of you know how to hold a great conversation, asking a woman out
on a date still poses a problem. How do you ask a perfect
stranger who you’ve known only for 10 or 15 minutes without
being too pushy? You may not have had a chance to connect with
her romantically yet but you must not forget your ABC’s = always
be closing.
In this
5-part series, let’s dissect each critical element of a
conversation and what you need to do to become a better
conversationalist in a dating situation. Here’s what
coming up:
Part II – How
to talk to women – Conversation Skills 101
Part III –
How to talk to women – Conversation Starters & Pick-Up Lines
Part IV –
How to talk to women – Conversation Topics
Part V – How
to talk to women – ABC – Always be closing
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